How Women TEST You & How To Handle It…

Why and how women test you…

A Congruency Test (or Shit Test) is when a woman gives a guy a hard time, usually for the purpose of seeing how he will react.

Upon first meeting, she may test to make sure you’re not a weirdo. Then she may test to see if you’re really as cool as you seem. She may also test to see if you are a good provider or lover.

If you have a positive response to her test, attraction will skyrocket.

If, however, you get offended or seem affected by her actions, attraction will plummet.

The test itself isn’t important.

What’s important is how you react to the test.

How to handle her test…

To pass the test, all you have to do is remain unmoved.

Never let her change your frame.

No matter what, ALWAYS respond with positivity and compassion… Or don’t respond at all.

This sounds good but…

How do you remain non-reactive when she says or does something to piss you off?

That’s easy… just drop your backpack.

Let me explain…

We all have what I call a “Backpack”. 

It’s the place we store every negative, hurtful experience we have ever had in our entire life. 

From being bullied in elementary school – to being rejected by women as an adult – and everything in between.

24 hours a day, 7 days a week, you carry a Backpack filled with everything that bothers you, irritates you, scares you, intimidates you, makes you angry, and pushes your buttons.

The stuff in your Backpack is the root cause of every negative emotion you experience… Including fear, anxiety, worry, hate, anger, jealousy, and sadness.

About Your Backpack…

Some people have a small Backpack. 

I had one of those super huge “I’m going into the wilderness for a month like a crazy person” Backpacks.

My parents were physically and verbally abusive. 

It really messed me up. So my backpack was huge.

There’s no excuse for abusing another person.  Especially a child.

But you should know my mother had me when she was 14. My dad was 17. 

They both came from broken homes and suffered unimaginable abuse as children.

They had no idea how to raise a child.

I share this with you because I want you to know that even if you have a GIGANTIC Backpack, you can still let go of all that hurt and be free. 

In the words of Siddhartha Gautama (The Buddha)…

“Holding on to negative emotions is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who gets burned.”

There are, in fact, several ways to drop your Backpack (i.e. release negative emotions).

Buddhist monks sat in the middle of the jungle all night surrounded by wild animals to release fear.

Fortunately, there are easier ways to rid yourself of negative emotions….

Here’s what Oprah had to say…

Oprah interviewed Michael Singer, author of, “The Untethered Soul.” 

During the interview, Mr. Singer shared this release technique with Opera:

Step 1: Schedule some alone time when you can shut off your phone and be completely uninterrupted.

Step 2: Think of an annoying person or situation that bothers you and dwell on it.

Allow yourself to be completely consumed by the way it makes you feel.

(Start with something minor – not the worst thing in your life. You can work up to that.)

Step 3: Notice the emotion you are feeling.  Notice where the feeling is located in your body.

Step 4: Continue to feel the emotion as much as you possibly can.

Negative feelings can’t stand the clear light of awareness.

So give the feeling your undivided attention.

While you are feeling one emotion it may transform into another emotion before going away completely.

That’s ok.

Just keep feeling whatever emotion comes up until you don’t feel it any longer.

Step 5: Continue to feel it until the emotion completely goes away on its own.

Let the feeling rise up, expand, and dissipate.

Step 6: Repeat steps 1-5 for every negative emotion you experience (fear, anxiety, worry, hate, anger, jealousy, and sadness).

Also, repeat steps 1-5 for anything and everything that irritates you or pushes your buttons.

Going forward, the second you feel a negative emotion, instead of ignoring or suppressing the feeling, allow yourself to feel the emotion completely until it goes away on its own. 

Doing this for every negative emotion will allow you to drop your Backpack and make you peaceful, loving, compassionate, non-judgmental, tolerant, and wise.

You will no longer feel negativity, making you the hardest person in the world to offend.

When you don’t get offended, you will easily be able to pass any test that comes your way.

As an added benefit, this exercise is also one of the first steps to creating a vibe of swag and confidence woman can’t resist.

Which is the foundation for attracting women without saying a word.


That’s a wrap… I hope you find the information in this article to be as life-changing as it has proven to be for myself and countless others. Goodbye for now and God Bless!

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